Enthusiasm with Dr Mario Denton

Enthusiasm is one of the most divine feelings we can experience. It is energy vibrating at the highest level, energy vibrating in tune with creation. Enthusiasm is directly linked to passion. The word « Enthusiasm » has its roots in the Greek language; it literally means « the God within »

Happiness, sorrow and joy

My wife and I were studying temperaments and personalities some years ago. Of the several classifications we studied, the easiest to understand was the one illustrated with animals—the Lion, Otter, Beaver, and Golden Retriever.

Of these, the Otter is the life of the party. I’ve heard more than one person say, “The otter is the party!” They are often the comedians or comediennes. They know how to insert humour into almost any serious situation. They are always ready to help us see the brighter side of life, and society is truly blessed to have them. But there is often another side to the Otter.

Culture and character

Top 10 Things You and Your Wife Fight About

The well-known adage (one-size-fits-all) for family gatherings goes something like this. “Never talk about politics, sex, or religion.” That’s any family—modern family, traditional family, non-traditional family—you name it.
That well may be a practical suggestion for large get-togethers at Thanksgiving and Christmas, but it’s not the best advice for your marriage. Avoiding difficult topics doesn’t make the tension go away. To the contrary, unwillingness to communicate mostly serves to deepen the divide. Can you spell marriage conflict?
We recommend a marriage that values communication and acknowledges the potential for conflict in the context of mutual respect and affirming love.
Simply put, we’d better talk about the things we fight about. If we won’t talk, then fighting is all that’s left in the way of communication. Parenting 101 and marriage 101 are often, fundamentally, exactly the same class.  
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make-or-break factor for the dream of a rainbow nation

"Ethics is a make-or-break factor for the dream of a rainbow nation," observed Professor Deon Rossouw, CEO of the Ethics Institute of South Africa (EthicsSA). Speaking at the Second Annual Ethics Conference in Sandton on Friday, Prof Rossouw further said: "We have to look at where we have made progress, where we are failing and where we need to put more focus in order to build a more ethical, and thus ultimately more just, society. Both individuals and organisations have to take responsibility for their impact on society."

Speaking on the state of ethics in South Africa, Eusebius McKaiser, a political and social analyst at the Wits Centre for Ethics, argued that South Africa had to close the gap between the vision we adopted in 1994 and enshrined in our Constitution, and the reality of what is happening on the ground. McKaiser said that South Africans tended to confuse ethical with legal behaviour.

Professor Wiseman Nkuhlu, chancellor of the University of Pretoria and chairman of Rothschild South Africa, agreed that the problem of ethics lies not in ideological beliefs but in people's everyday conduct. "Those who lead must be the champions of good ethical conduct. The implementation of ethics in an organisation should not be left to ethics officers and auditors," Professor Nkuhlu said. "We need to develop a common understanding of what serving the public interest means."

At the same time, he added, it was the actions of ordinary South Africans that will ultimately make the biggest difference. Both corporate and private citizens must insist that the national conversation be about the values that underpin policies and economic objectives, and should participate in this conversation more actively.

Sipho Pityana, chairperson of the Council for the Advancement of the South African Constitution, argued that an active citizenry could reclaim power from political parties and, in fact, increase the capacity of the state, provided the state recognised citizens as partners and not as enemies or opponents.

We can all be agents of change... 

We need to develop our character

Develop families, businesses and communities of character

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Meeting real needs

We have had many family discussions in the car when we see people on the roadside with handmade cardboard signs. Our decision has been to give to the physical need—by taking food or beverages to them or referring them to an organization that can help.

what motivates compassion?

Making more than money

Some think capitalism is a cold-hearted realm where business leaders ruthlessly use up and dispose of workers in pursuit of the almighty dollar. NBC’s show The Apprentice certainly fosters that image. But I don’t believe that is a fair image for most business leaders.

Start with your character development

Develop character in your family, your organisation and you community
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Be happier, healthier and more successful as a family

Lasting solutions to family struggles come as family members develop character qualities such as obedience, sensitivity and forgiveness. By emphasising, requiring and recognising positive character qualities, you can help your children reach their full potential. Have you ever wondered why some families get along peacefully and find true contentment, while others are ravaged by anger, bitterness, and division?  Common experience indicates money, education and opportunities do not solve these challenges. Character makes a significant difference.

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Trust: The missing ingredient often in the workplace?

Trust relationship gaps are one of the biggest stumbling blocks towards greater transparency and better workplace relationships. Quite simply, If you have lost the trust of your employees - you have lost your credibility as an effective leader.

You can also lose trust by:

•    Not taking appropriate action when others engage in unethical behavior.

•    Not living the Corporate standards of your firm.

•    Not following through on commitments

•    Not communicating openly - even the simple act of being vague and ambiguous can build confusion which creates mistrust.

Some practical tips:

Time for a leadership revolution

TDDI in their Global Leadership Forecast report of 2011 have done some great research asking the following absolutely relevant questions namely:

What is the overall quality of leadership in organisations today?

Do organisations have a sufficient supply of capable leaders to meet the business challenges of tomorrow?  What can HR do to revolutionise the development of their leaders?  Are organisations focusing on developing the right leadership skills? Are organisations using the right methods and approaches?   

Participation consists of 2600 organisations with 12, 423 professionals and 1897 HR professionals from 74 countries (That’s impressive).  The results are mind blowing.  See for yourself.  Leaders are still ineffective as coaches. The current effectiveness of talent management systems is dismal

Only 31% of leaders and HR professionals rated the effectiveness of leadership selection as high

Only 22% of leaders and HR professionals rated their leadership succession systems as highly effective

Only 38% report that the leadership in their organisation is very good (31% good and excellent 7%)

Only one third of leaders and HR professionals rated their leadership developments efforts as highly effective

Watch video by Dr Mario Denton about leadership below

My summary: Time is right to seriously re-evaluate all your talent practices in this regard. The problems may be deeper than you think  
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Make sincere deposits, recognise character

He was about 6'4", 260 pounds, ponytail, tattoos, Harley t-shirt, leather jacket, and his nickname was “Bull.” His supervisor was recognizing him publicly for his seventeen years of service. As the supervisor told stories illustrating “Bull’s” willingness to change plans without getting upset, every onlooker saw “Bull” transform to a demeanor reminiscent of a Boy Scout being appreciated for his community service. 

The benevolent leader

In my years of leading manufacturing organizations, I have found a contented employee generally contributes to a cheerful home environment; and when everything is good at home, the employee stands a much better chance of success at work.

Since the average working American spends more waking hours at work than with his or her family, it stands to reason the leader or the environment provided by the manager has a significant influence on an employee’s well-being.

So what does a benevolent business leader look like?

Building a culture of compassion

Although sometimes it may feel that work is simply about making money, most of us want more than just a paycheck. We want a place to work where we have opportunity to earn a living while working with others who genuinely appreciate our contributions to the team.

Often, when organizations are on the decline, they lose their personal touch. Instead of being places where a good work ethic is valued and respected, these organizations become places where cynicism and negativity rule. In time, such organizations will die. People will not continue investing themselves in a place where they feel devalued.

Meeting real needs

We have had many family discussions in the car when we see people on the roadside with handmade cardboard signs. Our decision has been to give to the physical need—by taking food or beverages to them or referring them to an organization that can help.

what motivates compassion?

It takes relationships to be determined

Some days I need someone to listen… and maybe to tell me my rationalizations don’t make sense. Whether you’re trying to stay on a diet, overcome a bad temper, or just exercise more often, you can probably relate.

Be a Good Neighbour

 Do you live in a neighborhood where you feel save and connected to others, or do you feel overcrowded, threatened, and otherwise unsafe in your surroundings? This, and other aspects of neighborhood life, can impact both your level of happiness and stress.

One way you can be a better neighbour and citizen of character is to practice deference.
Deference is practicing civility…especially in disagreement. You might have the right to say or do what you want, but is it helpful? Is it appropriate? Is it treating others as you’d like them to treat you?

Healthy leadership 01: Guard your character or lose your vision

"The very essence of leadership is that you have to have a vision. It's got to be a vision you articulate clearly and forcefully on every occasion." --Theodore Hesburgh, President of the University of Notre Dame

Leaders have vision. They share a dream and direction that other people want to share and follow. The leadership vision goes beyond your written organizational mission statement and your vision statement. The vision of leadership permeates the workplace and is manifested in the actions, beliefs, values and goals of your organization’s leaders.

The problem is often leadership do not realise that their sight and vision have become “blurry”. As is the case with medical cataracts, the chances that they will pass unnoticed are virtually none.  The effects of cataracts are devastating: eighteen million people worldwide are blind because of cataracts.  Unfortunately such statistics are not available for managerial cataracts, and neither is the cost of a ‘blind’ manager to an organisation.

Bring back character in organisations

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